Why January 17th Is a Bad Day for Most Americans
I read a recent study that said that most Americans break their New Year’s resolutions by January 17th—a finding that, frankly, doesn’t surprise me. I see anecdotal evidence of this every year.
Take, for example, one of the most common resolutions in America: to lose weight or become healthier. Every January, I see a rush of humanity flood into the local gym, shiny membership cards in hand. These newly-enthused exercisers are very well-intentioned, mind you, but their enthusiasm ultimately fades in time. Why is that? First of all, most gung-ho resolution makers operate solely on will power, always excited to start fresh with a new goal until the going gets tough. The problem with will power is that it’s unsustainable—sort of like holding your breath underwater. So as the weeks go by, the attrition takes hold and the crowds thin out, and by Valentine’s day the gym is frequented by only its year-round regulars.
Internal Conflict Is The Main Roadblock in Achieving Goals
We talked a little bit about internal conflict in my last post of this series, but I want to dive deeper into this concept, because I believe it is the main reason why goals and resolutions often fail. Consciously, a client of mine may want to accomplish a certain goal, and they will tell me so congruently. But unconsciously, they are moving towards a conflicting goal, which appears to them as self-sabotage. Broken down, this looks like: weight loss (conscious goal) vs. negative thoughts or beliefs (unconscious conflicting goal). The client might be trying desperately to change their behavior, but without addressing the unconscious internal conflict, they are doomed to fail.
Ever known someone who swore to stick to a certain diet, only to embrace the YOLO mentality and order a 2,000-calorie meal as soon as she’s out with friends because, on top of everything else, she’s “worked hard and deserves it?” Then you know what I’m talking about.
Or it could be the person looking for a better job, but procrastinates in taking the necessary actions to make it happen.
You get the picture.
Overcome Internal Conflict with Hypnosis
But the question is, how do we overcome this internal conflict and get on with making our goals/resolutions/dreams happen? I promise it’s not impossible; there’s hope for us all to succeed, and hypnosis can be an excellent tool. Let me explain. One of the ways to overcome this conflict is to put an end to the internal battle altogether.
Often people think that if one side of them (the conscious part that wants the goal) can “win,” the problem will disappear. But in hypnosis sessions, we look for the deeper intention behind the unconscious part that seems to be preventing meaningful progress. It seems counterintuitive, but don’t forget that if you are repeatedly failing to achieve a goal, new thinking is in order.
We then turn the blocking part into an ally, so that all parts of your mind support your moving towards the goal at hand.
Using hypnosis, we can communicate directly with the unconscious mind and work with these blockages. Often, when these parts of the unconscious mind are heard for the very first time, it feels like a weight is lifted off your shoulders because the battle ceases.
To learn more, schedule a free hypnosis evaluation session so that we can discuss your goals, and how to work past what has stopped you in the past.